tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17043579.post3931880156911409953..comments2023-10-16T05:45:16.388-05:00Comments on Never that Easy: Being the guy (or in my case, the girl)Never That Easyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04008749218695113192noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17043579.post-50853447316990018802009-09-04T13:28:21.771-05:002009-09-04T13:28:21.771-05:00...This made sense to me, if that matters at all. ......This made sense to me, if that matters at all. <br /><br />I know what you mean about being so wrapped up in yourself; it's hard not to do that--it really is. So forgive yourself and mail out a card today. <br /><br />Start small. Stay small. Just start...you can do it; I learned that about you from this post.Ms. Skywalkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01611709391769911868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17043579.post-53355753035883635322009-09-02T16:49:34.719-05:002009-09-02T16:49:34.719-05:00This is one of the reasons I've given Facebook...This is one of the reasons I've given Facebook a wide berth...<br /><br />As far as being "the girl", the way I see the problem Ihave is with numbers. There are a lot of people I like very much (well, perhaps a few dozen), but there is a limit on the number of people I can be in regular contact with - the people I can really be there for. It really hurts me that I can't be there for everyone I care about, but then if I was a more useful friend to all of the two dozen, I'd probably lament my uselessness to other people I know and like.<br /><br />Everyone is limited like this, we're just more limited. It's a similar kind of limitation that leads thirteen year-olds to neglect their sick friend, I guess.<br /><br />As for your lack of spontaneity and mobility as a friend, everyone has different strengths. The people I would call on in one kind of crisis are different to the ones I would call on in another. Some people are very hands-on, others are there when you need to take a step back and talk things over. <br /><br />It's still pretty crushing when a friend in need could really use help that, because of illness, you simply can't provide. But you too have your strengths - you have certainly provided me with the exact thing I needed to hear on occasion, and we hardly know one another. <br /><br />Hope this makes sense, really need to sleep now.The Goldfishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17043579.post-10208521878661952342009-09-02T14:14:43.830-05:002009-09-02T14:14:43.830-05:00I'm printing the first half of this entry out ...I'm printing the first half of this entry out and looking at it every day. I think that's a lesson that I need to learn, too. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our own lives that we forget how to reach out to others. <br /><br />(The second half of your entry was very nice as well, the first half of it just kind of punched me in the gut. It's kind of fitting that this week's topic at The Collective is assholes, right?)Ashleyhttp://www.ashleyawesome.comnoreply@blogger.com